Friday, November 18, 2005

Best days of our lives

I found the following on TOI. Very true....
 
Kaushal
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The new year also signifies the beginning of a new phase for many collegians — life after graduation. However, the bittersweet memories of college days are hard to forget, as are the friendships. Bonds that have been immortalised by artists, singers and writers galore, and yet, barely lasted once university is over.

Life after college is like a sieve. It filters all your friends through, and ultimately there remain only one or two, whom you actually care to keep in touch with," smiles designer Amrita Gupta. "Funnily enough, it gives you a reality check on friends who were purely 'hang-out' buddies and those who you actually never want to lose touch with," she adds.

However, for many, those 'one or two' special friends also slowly melt into oblivion with the passing years. "In college your lives are inter-twined, your worries and aims are similar. Once you part ways, you lead separate lives. And life deals differently with different people. After a point it is tough to keep up a friendship, because of the different circumstances one is in," says 32-year-old techie Rahul Sharma...

 
...Agrees businessman Namit Mehta, "Sometimes you zoom ahead in your career while your college friend is still struggling to get a foothold. Then the distance is not only literal but even metaphorical. Awkwardness comes in which is sad."

But for many, surfing through websites often brings back pangs of nostalgia as they come across unexpected buddies. "I suddenly came across a link to the personal site of my roommate in college. It was so nice and so sad at the same time, as I thought of how we always vowed to stay in touch," reminisces homemaker Anju Sheth.

"I came across my exflame in college on a site. And strangely, despite being married myself I was elated to know he wasn't married yet!" laughs Sanjita Agarwal, software professional...

 
...It is probably easier to keep in touch if one is single. Once you are married, there are too many issues that take up your time," adds Sheth as an afterthought. And sure enough, for many, the void left by a close friend after college, fills soon enough.

As VJ Nikhil Chinnappa explains, "When you leave college, there are tears (yes even among men!) and promises to keep in touch. Then you enter the professional world and become too busy shaping your life."

He signs off humming, "Those were the best days of my life..."
 
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1 Comments:

Blogger Kaushal said...

yep. we want to be friends with our buddies, but we just can't as the time passes. And priorities also change with the time. But it doesn't mean we care less for our friends, in fact our closest buddies may hv new friends with them who care more, while we still remain best friends.

Love live Dhamaal

Friday, November 18, 2005 1:19:00 PM  

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